I got married in August 2022. Today, over two years later, I'm still surprised that it happened. My boyfriend Ole once said to me that he saw me married with children and a typical life in the future. I couldn't imagine that. I tried to explain to him how unrealistic that was and what it would take... But then I was suddenly married.
Of course, it didn't happen quite that quickly. First I had to get to know a woman, which seemed impossible to me and I explained to Ole why that alone was unrealistic. My expectations of a woman were and are too high. Even if you know that, it's hard to get rid of it. And then you also have to get to know women. But where? There are only men in my department at work. I don't go on any dates. I rarely approach strangers or even women. When I'm out on my own, I usually have my headphones on and don't want to be approached. So these are all things that make it difficult. So how did I meet my current wife?
The beginning was so easy and didn't even force me to leave the house and go on a blind date or anything. I sat at my computer and played Counter Strike. My sister called me and I was only half listening because I was very focused on the game and wanted to win. She told me that there had been an event at work where you could have a deeper conversation with your colleagues and that she and a colleague had just had such a deeper exchange and then both met privately and talked about partners and relationships. Then my sister suggested me as a potential partner and said she would just set up a chat group, invite us and then leave the rest to us. I thought that was really funny and told her I'd be happy to join in the fun. But not that day, I still had to sit at my PC and play games. Even then, I had no idea what was in store for me.
It happened quickly, after about two weeks she wanted to meet me. She also thought I was nice and didn't want to waste any more time to see if it was the same in real life as our conversations in the chat and on the phone. It made me very nervous, but I had no arguments against it. Only the fear that it was probably over then dampened my joy a little about our first meeting. But then the time had come and I saw her in a beautiful dress and I had also tried to get ready. It was exciting and although we hadn't seen each other before, it was also very intimate. She took away all my fears and I simply felt at ease. I will never forget those early days. From then on, we were together almost every day.
As we spent so much time together, talking and making plans for the future, I came up with the idea of moving in together. We did that very quickly and took the full risk. Then there was only one logical step left and I first asked my mother-in-law for permission to marry her daughter. In the end, I asked her to marry me, just as the sun was setting on the Spree in Köpenick.
I don't know why, I was never particularly interested in getting married, but marrying my wife not only seemed absolutely logical to me, it also gave me and still gives me a very good feeling. It's probably the right one.
I'll write separately about the absolute dream wedding.
In love, engaged, married!
